
Given this is a romance blog, I know most people reading this love to love…but even romantics can feel a little cold-hearted sometimes. Trust me, I’m an expert on this topic. The question is: What should a true romantic do when she’s lost that lovin’ feeling?
This week I described my mainstream novel,
THE WATER BEARER, to a friend by saying, “It’s a story about forgiveness and the kind of love that lasts beyond this lifetime.”
He said, “And you wrote it?”
Yes, it was a dig, and yes it stung. But I knew where he was coming from. I have been more than a little jaded as of late.
I told him, “Believe it or not, I do believe in that kind of love.”
“Just not with anyone you can actually have it with.”
Ouch. If his first response was a dig, the second one buried me. Probably because I fear there may be a little too much truth in what he said.
Do I believe in love? Yes. Do I know the pain it can bring? Absolutely. Will I ever let myself love hard enough to hurt that much again? I don’t know. And I know I’m not the only one wearing this chicken suit.
Most of my feathered friends and I would give
just about anything to feel crazy in love…unfortunately the one thing we might not be willing to give is the only thing it takes. Can we ever trust anyone with all of our heart again?
Damn. That sucks.
I could drone on and on and work through hours of therapy on this topic, but instead I’m going to pull up my hot pink bootstraps and do something about it. I pledge to try and melt my ice cold heart. And I want any of you who are feeling a little nippy in the cockles to step out of your chicken suit and join me.
I hereby proclaim the next seven days to be COCKLE MELTDOWN week. Repeat after me. I
WILL spend a mini-fortune on iTunes or burning up Pandora to find songs sappy enough to seep into even the hardest of hearts. I
WILL watch the mushiest most cliché chick flicks I can find,
AND I WILL read a Nicholas Sparks (or the equivalent) novel.
If seven days of love overload doesn’t get us excited about the idea of leaping head over heels into the mouth of a love volcano…well, at least maybe it’ll inspire us to write or read another romance. What's to lose?
So tell me now, do you believe in the kind of love you read about? Are you brave enough to let yourself experience it?
If you’re a big chicken like me, I double dog dare you to join me for a good cockle defrosting. For our commencement next Thursday we can hold hands and group hug until the last little slivers of ice have melted away and fire races through our veins the minute we see a potential true-lover.
All of you warm-hearted love muffins (or love cupcakes for AJ) are welcome to suggest movies, songs and novels for us less fortunate.
For my friend who inspired this post, I will just say no matter how hard I work on letting my walls down, it’s going to take a man who is patient with me. A man who will push me but understand the importance of making me feel secure while I’m pushing myself. A man whose actions speak as loud or maybe louder than his words. A man who understands I wouldn’t be in this position if I was the kind of person who could love with limits and not let my emotions consume me.
Xoxo,
Your Darlin
P.S. Next week we'll talk about something sexy!